I was gutted to read in the news when I was pregnant this time around that ‘pregnancy brain’ was a myth. While I didn’t lose use of all my senses, it was nice to know that there was a reason for some lapses in brain power. For example, in the last week before giving birth I called out the AA to fix my unresponsive car only to find I had flooded the engine (hitting the accelerator instead of the throttle).
As with a lot of things that the human body does to help repair / protect itself, it makes sense that the female form would offer some way of reducing the memory of the physical pain of childbirth. After all, there is no way to avoid that the wonder of childbirth does mean a lot of unusual strain on the body!
Myth or magic? I truly believe human beings are amazing things – I just have to look at my children to be reminded of that! Would be great to hear your thoughts / experiences.
It’s hard to know whether you get more anxious waiting for your first child or the second/third/fourth.
With the first, there is the fear of the unknown. If you are anything like me your vivid imagination can take over, especially when it comes to the actual birth. On the flip side, you have the time to read all the books, attend all the classes and talk to friends and family about the upcoming event.
With the second (or more) baby, you’ve already had a birth experience – whether good, bad or somewhere in between – so you have some preconceptions (for better or worse). You can only hope that things are a bit easier the next time around as your body has been through the process before. The downside is that you are probably kept quite busy looking after your existing children and don’t get the chance to refresh your memory about the birth process, things to prepare for, things not to worry about.
Key points to remember are:
– Few births go exactly to plan (we may all have a ‘wish list’ which we dutifully write up in our antenatal records, but in most cases you have to go with the flow as each delivery, baby and mother is different – as are the consultants and environments affecting events).
– Everyone has an opinion. The majority of people mean well. Some speak from experience, but sometimes this can be clouded by time so it’s important not to take everything to heart.
Above all, it’s important to ensure you think about what’s right or important for you and use that as your guideline. The experts will step in as / when required.
It’s an exciting, if slightly daunting time. But if you’re expecting number two (or more) then you know the many benefits to be had once you have the new addition to the family.
It’s true that there is no way to plan for everything. In the lead up to having your first child you have an amazing amount of time to think about all the things you might need, where you want to have your baby (home, hospital, birthing centre, etc.) as well as all the excitement of all the changes that you’re experiencing.
Waiting for your second child, you have a much shorter amount of spare time to think about things as you’re busy looking after a child already. The good news is that you have a lot of things that you’ll need from the first time around. The bad news is that there are certain other things that need to be thought about – a key consideration is childcare if you’re not going to be at home for the birth and not all of us have family that are close enough or able to help at short notice.
It’s impossible to prepare for every eventuality – as unless you are having a planned caesarian you don’t know when exactly you’ll be having your child – and that means the date, as well as time of day or night and how long you’ll be away.
Having some options is a good idea, as taking your first child with you into hospital when you’re experiencing labour pains may not be a welcome solution for anyone! Some of the alternatives include:
– Nursery contacts
Making sure a couple of these groups of people spend some time with your first child so they are familiar with each other as well as ensuring they know their way around your house and your first child’s routine can give you a lot of reassurance.
You can’t plan for everything, but you can have some backup plans in place so you can focus on the new addition to your family.